Experiences

Every day is a new experience we live to learn from. Sometimes we don't recognize this until it becomes difficult.

Some of us learn without losing or heart breaking, while some suffer until get the point of the experience. No matters what's the way whether hard or easy, because at the end all will be kept at mind for ever.

This article will talk about different experiences from different people and sides. All of the following are based on true stories and their tellers share this for the first time and consider it secret, so their names won't be mentioned. 

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" I used to be in an elementary school when I was bullied. My story began at second grade when a classmate and her cousins - they were like a gang-  tried to control the whole class and fight with those whom she didn't like, and unfortunately, I was one of them. I used to be super shy, and quite, and I wasn't a naughty student. As well as, I was clever. I was bothered a lot from that girl, like she drew ugly things about me in my book, and told me that she will hit me after school. This usually made me went home earlier because I was afraid of her. One day, she said that she is going to fight with me, which let me to feel scared and back home without my bag. 

I was suffering from this for two years, until my family decided to move to another place, I was so happy because finally I could get rid of that bullied girl. However, I wasn't completely comprehended from my family, and they gave me nicknames like a scared child.

After we moved, I started studying in a new school and met new friends. 

Once, we were playing and there was a girl, who liked to be under spotlight, she was racing with another girl and I was encouraging the last one, yet she wondered why didn't I encourage her?!. Suddenly, I slapped her as strong as I can, she was shocked so did I. Then I understood that it was a reaction for what happened to me in the past, moreover, I didn't feel afraid of anyone. Even, I had a reputation that I'm a strong girl, but I tried not to be naughty because I wasn't.

Later, I became a close friend with the girl whom I slapped, and we still until now." 

" I work in a furniture shop, one day a strange woman came to buy a reception room because she had an occasion and wanted to pay a lower price. I told her that's not fair, she replied that she used to buy with this price, so I said sorry! I can't because I'm not the shop owner. Suddenly, she started to cry and blame those who robbed her, then she left. I was shocked and thought why could a woman do this just for buying something. After that, the owner came and I told him the whole story, and he looked like knew her. She was widow and lost her sons during the war, so she is the only person who responsible of her family. At that moment, I felt ashamed besides I understood that I should't judge on people before knowing their circumstances." 

" After three years of struggling I broke up with him, the person whom I prayed every day to continue my life with. I thought if he disappears from my life, I will fall apart. Actually, I have been through a lot of difficult days, I was a mess confused, and broken.

 During that period of time, I was thinking that love and care should give and come from beloved ones, and I should have a boyfriend to get this. However, I learned from this experience that what I was thinking about is wrong, because through my darkest time I received much love from my family and friends, like unexpected messages; which told me how I am beautiful, a bar of chocolate from my father, a birthday cake from a grandma, and my cousins were always there for me. I found a new kind of love in new things I didn't know before, which made me got enough and stopped looking for my another half. 

Usually, people who have been through breaking up stage, stop their lives, which is wrong. While they can look for themselves and discover new things, and try to survive from this experience with facing, not escaping. We sometimes find a difficulty to deal with such a thing, and there is no one older, who has a same experience, can tell us what to do. In fact, I tried to help myself by watching motivated videos and writing stories, and that let me sent a message saying I'm over it and I don't feel anything anymore.

This was a big challenge and took a long time, but at the end I found myself stronger than before." 

" My story is different because I lied to my parents. I was so young when I told my mom that there is a party at school and I need to bring with me a bag of candy, and she agreed. Honestly, I said this because my classmate used to bring with her chocolate and sweets to us, and I wanted to do like her without thinking what will happen later if my mom know. 

I completely forgot that my cousins were at my class, and here was the surprise because my mom knew from them there was no party. What happened later is, my dad knew that too and they waited for me till I back from school, but mom was very angry and about to punish me, while my dad stopped her and decided to handle this by telling me a famous story about an untruthful child " Shihab Alkaďhaab". It was a great lesson to me indeed, because if my parents punish me and don't understand that I'm a child and I do some foolishness, I will lie to them again and never say the truth." 

So we learn from our mistakes and experiences, not form what we have heard from people. Actually, there is a sentence placed at my mind, which is " We don't know how it looks like, unless we try".